This question popped in my mind and I figured it was too long to ask on twitter so I am asking here. First I would like to say that I don’t support homosexuality and I don’t believe that people are born gay. However, you guys got there somehow and yaddi yadda. I feel it’s important to have a disclaimer because this is not a gay rights post. It is also not a gay bashing post. If this does not relate to you, please do not add your opinions.
On to my question. How do you guys approach someone that you are interested in? Because so many people are not gay, I would think that there is a high chance that someone you find attractive is not going to be gay. Do you go up to them anyways? Is there a gay code? Like some way to let another gay person know that you are gay? I’ve been hit on by girls so I can see how a girl may go up to another girl but what if the other girl is aggressive? What if they are offended and think it’s a matter to fight over. Even worse when it comes to guys. I’m assuming that guys that are straight would not want a gay guy to hit on them. So how do gay guys find guys to date? Especially approaching a black guy. I feel like you would have to risk your life to go after them. Do you just cross your finger and hope that they happen to be gay too? And out of the closet? Because if they are not, wouldn’t they still get angry anyways? Or is gay dating just done online. Because then you can see someone’s sexuality so you wouldn’t have to take a chance and find out that you are wrong. And then, how high is the rejection rate? Would a gay person be rejected more than a straight person? How likely are you to go up to someone, or do you hope that the other person comes up to you. And, if someone is not gay, do you try to turn them gay? Are you selective about who you try to ‘change’? Are there people that are more likely to turn gay than others? How do you know and how do you decide? Do you even believe that people can turn gay? What about people that are bisexual or bi-curious? Do you consider them gay? And would you have a relationship with them or does the chance that they may not be gay at all makes them not worth it? Okay, I realize that I’m getting into more than just one question now but I’m really curious. Last thing. Do you end up having to settle? Like, how high of standards do you have? Especially if you’re not living in a town that embraces the gay culture. Or, do you end up having long distance relationships. I know I stated at the beginning that I don’t support homosexually. However, I’m not here to judge anyone and I’m really just curious. I hope you guys are not dis-encouraged from sharing because of my statement.
Here’s some pen and paper, please feel free to share.