Who says a woman isn’t supposed to enjoy sex? What kind of mess is that? Especially, when women been perfectly designed with their own special pleasure spot! Did you know this spot is the only organ in the human body with the sole function of providing pleasure? With over 8,000 nerve endings – twice as many as the “mighty” male penis, it’s no wonder why women can achieve multiple mind-blowing orgasms. Even according to some researchers, stimulation of this organ accounts for 50 to75 percent of most orgasms. And, over 90 percent of women experience their first orgasm through its direct stimulation. Even more amazingly, most women experience multiple orgasms as a result of direct or indirect stimulation of this special spot of precious pleasure. The C-spot, Clitoris is her name.
So what exactly is She — the clitoris? Many women complain that their partner can’t find her, mistreat her, or don’t spend nearly enough time getting to know her. And the vast majority of women do stimulate her in order to enhance their sexual experience! She is a key player to sexual pleasure. She’s a small, round blossom of pinkish or brownish flesh located just above the vaginal opening. A true cutie but shy at times! Because, she’s usually hiding under her custom designed hood, a soft fold of tissue called the “clitoral hood”. It helps to protect it from over stimulation. Her size and shape will differ from woman to woman, but on average she’s about two and a half to four inches long, similar to the length of a flaccid penis. How about that? But, it’s important to note that her size does not correlate with the amount of pleasure she gives. Treat her right with the right stimulation and the results of magnificent multitude can be achieved no matter her lenght.
There’s more to her than meets the eye! Only a small portion of her can be seen by the naked eye since about 75 percent of her is hidden internally. Most people only focus on her pretty bold head or “glans”. But, Clitoris is actually a complex network of nerves that stretch throughout the vagina and up into her woman’s body. Some of her hidden internal parts include: erectile tissue, glands, muscles, blood vessels, and nerves. Internal, Clitoris has a bulb winged-like figure that is reminiscent of a wishbone and she sits on both sides of the urethra. These pretty wings are made of erectile tissue that extends beneath the inner lips of the vagina, and they fill with blood when her woman is aroused. Wow!
Once aroused, her bulb fills with blood, increasing her size and sensitivity, which may retract her hood to reveal her head. At the peak of pleasure or orgasm, she will return to her petite size. But, sometimes when orgasm isn’t achieved or for some other reason her bulb may remain full. If it’s for longer than a few hours, her condition and discomfort is pretty much the male equivalent of “blue balls”.
In Truth! Every woman is very unique and therefore so is her Clitoris. Not only in appearance but the way to engage and maintain a satisfying level of sexual arousal as well. The sensitivity of the clitoris and how she likes it to be handled for pleasure varies greatly from woman to woman. The direct approach is not always the best approach when it comes to the clitoris. Some women do not enjoy direct stimulation because overall feeling can be very intense which may eventually cause pain for them. While, other women enjoy the intensity and direct pressure and/or stimulation of their clitoris feels exhilarating for them. Then there are others who prefer stimulation from the side area or on top of the clitoral hood and the feeling just as breathtaking. But, if you or your partner is uncertain of your level of clitoral sensitivity, it’s always best to start out gently, nice and slow then vary your touch depending on the reaction being conveyed.
Now, forget what you may have heard about diamonds because the clitoris is truly a woman’s best friend! In fact, they’re inseparable. And, understanding the secrets of this pleasure zone can make all the difference between an ordinary and extraordinary sexual experience!
Here are a few helpful and healthy tips to follow as you begin or continue the journey of extraordinary sexual pleasure with the clitoris:
- Wash Your Hands Please, before touching
Make sure your hands and fingers are squeaky clean and your finger nails are well groomed. Bacteria that can mount on the hands and under fingernails can potential infect the clitoris. Remember bacteria loves to thrive in warm and moist environments. Also make sure your fingernails are clipped and filed. A sharp or jagged fingernail on the most sensitive part of the body does not make for a good situation!
- Use Various Strokes & Techniques
Consider yourself an artist as you paint your masterpiece. You should use a combination of various strokes and techniques in order to ensure your greatest work of art comes forward! The clitoris is no different! The same old stroke and/or technique can become pretty dull and boring, even painful after a while. A tongue is the perfect tool for the job! It has the ability to twist, bend and fold creating various stokes, apply pressure and even different textures! Also try incorporating fingers and even toys into your play. Lightly nibbling and/or kisses to the clitoral hood also helps to spice things up a bit. Contact Sexpertly Yours, TaMara for a fantastic handout on!
- Know her Anatomy
That might sound obvious, but very few people actually take the time to learn it. You don’t have to be a doctor, but you should have a basic understanding of the parts of the female anatomy and how it responds to pleasure. Knowing this information will help to increase pleasure you and your partner as well as reduce risk for infection.
- Not too Much Rough Play, She’s a lady!
Again, the clitoris has over eight thousand nerve fibers. That’s a lot of sensitivity in one location. The wrong touch no matter or slight can change a pleasurable experience into a nightmare. The same is true of using your teeth. Teeth are designed for grinding a chewing food. Sharp teeth on an extremely sensitive clitoris, need I say more. Err on the side of caution. If you’re uncertain whether or not the touch or the teeth are too rough, ASK!
- Use Plenty of Lubrication, YES she says!
Imagine continuously rubbing sensitive area of your body with extra-rough sandpaper. That’s how it feels when you touch an un-lubricated clitoris. You can avoid this by using vaginal fluids. However, if a woman does not lubricate enough naturally, then apply a water-based or a silicone lubrication to the area before stimulation.
- Do NOT Blow on her, No Thanks!
Don’t blow on her clitoris! It’s not a candle! This one might sound obvious, but thanks to the advice in popular magazines and porn movies many people think it’s a huge turn on! Not so much! Blowing on it will only dry up the lubrication causing discomfort. However, lightly breathing on the clitoris can provide a warm tingly sensation to the very sensitive nerve endings. FYI – blowing on the clitoris and breathing warmly on it are two completely different things.
- Timing is everything, Her Time!
The clitoris can be extremely sensitive shortly after an orgasm. Touching at the wrong time can quickly turn a good time into a bad one. Gage post-orgasm touch carefully, monitor any reaction and scale back the level of stimulation if necessary.
- Use the Wings to Fly, Heavenly!
Don’t just focus only the head of the clitoris! Remember the internal clitoris is extremely sensitive as well! Using your fingers, penis or a sex toy, stroke the wings of the clitoris as this too can provide immense pleasure and increase orgasmic intensity.
Can we all just face the clitoral truth? The clitoris with its miraculous and mysterious power demands respect, appreciation and attention. The more we understand the center of a woman’s pleasure, the more we’re able to facilitate experiences of unparalleled bliss. So, trust me when I say, “she will thank you for taking the time to understanding the secret of her pearl!”